10 HABITS OF A SUCCESSFUL MOM
After meditating on what allows me to achieve that success, we put together 10 Habits of a Successful Mom. A few things that you can think about to become the happiest mother possible, keeping in mind that your well being is most important since you’re responsible for caring of others.
1. TAKE TIME FOR YOU: It is SO important to take time for yourself (refer to previous post). Mom’s lives can get so busy with cleaning, cooking, running errands, and playing, singing, reading, entertaining guest, being a wife, all while trying to deal with finances, pay bills, budget for the month, save! You NEED to do something you love EVERY day. After the kids are down, take a few minutes for yourself. Join an hour fitness class in your community, Read a good book, take a long warm bath, treat yourself online or visit the mall. Call/Visit your mom or friend, have a glass of wine. Do something you LOVE! Anything that would make you feel less overwhelmed and more positive. Your health and your sanity are extremely important, for you to be able to be a Mother.
2. LIFE IS BETTER WHEN YOU’RE LAUGHING: Learn to laugh. Nothing is going to be perfect – there are going to be days where you actually just want to cry! But learn to laugh. We all make mistakes – but everything works out. I find it helpful to laugh in some of the most stressful situations. It may sound crazy, but sometimes, what else can you do? Always tell yourself “this too shall pass.” Being a new mom and trying to meet appointments was such a task for me. Getting the baby ready, and then organizing everything he’ll need for the trip. On our way out he’ll poop his pamper and I’ll have to run back in, get him changed, and give him a bottle because he’s always hungry after a good poop (that in itself is funny). Sometimes, we both just laugh at nothing and laugh hysterically. It’s good for the soul.
3. HAVE A SCHEDULE: I find that my most successful days as a mom are the days I have planned out. Get into a routine of waking up and doing what you need to do, getting the most tedious task done first. I have a crazy obsession with my kitchen. It HAS to be clean before I do anything! So, if the kitchen isn’t cleaned the night before, it has to be done first thing in the morning. That way if nothing gets done the rest of the day, at least I feel good about something. Find out what kind of schedule works best for you and stick with it.
4. FOCUS ON FAMILY: Family should always come first! ALWAYS! Your spouse and your children should be your very FIRST PRIORITY. Take time for your children, cherish every moment with them. I’m amazed at how fast Roman is growing. He’s at that stage where he pulls at everything. I remember the days when I was teaching him to grasp objects. The more time you spend with them, the more your love for them will grow, and the happier and more successful mom you will be. It’s always very rewarding to observe their milestones and monitor their development.
5. GIRLS NIGHT OUT! : Not only is it okay, but it is a good thing! Leave the kids with your husband, mom, friend, and babysitter – and have a little Girls Night Out! I remember the first time I left my new baby; I seriously almost had a meltdown. I missed him so much! But it’s important to maintain a social life and not forget who you are as an individual. Remember that being a mom is one of your many roles. Do not neglect the others. You’re also a wife, sister, daughter and friend. Get out and have fun with your friends. You deserve it!
6. CREATE A HAPPY, HEALTHY HOUSE: It’s almost impossible to have a clean house with a baby or toddler running around, exploring his new world, learning new things. And that’s okay! This point takes us back to #3. Once you maintain a schedule, you’ll have days allocated for certain task. That way dishes doesn’t get piled up. Or you have two weeks of laundry. Don’t neglect chores and allow yourself to feel overwhelmed. It’s okay to ask for help. To share the chores and to allocate a different task everyday so you keep the places at least a bit organized. Roman is at the stage where everything goes into his mouth, so the carpets need to be clean and any hazardous objects are kept out of his reach.
7. DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS: Everyone has their own trials and tribulations. Some people are just better at masking theirs than others. Do not look at someone’s social media and wish for their life. Focus on your life, your love ones, making yourself a better person for your family. Be happy!
2. LIFE IS BETTER WHEN YOU’RE LAUGHING: Learn to laugh. Nothing is going to be perfect – there are going to be days where you actually just want to cry! But learn to laugh. We all make mistakes – but everything works out. I find it helpful to laugh in some of the most stressful situations. It may sound crazy, but sometimes, what else can you do? Always tell yourself “this too shall pass.” Being a new mom and trying to meet appointments was such a task for me. Getting the baby ready, and then organizing everything he’ll need for the trip. On our way out he’ll poop his pamper and I’ll have to run back in, get him changed, and give him a bottle because he’s always hungry after a good poop (that in itself is funny). Sometimes, we both just laugh at nothing and laugh hysterically. It’s good for the soul.
3. HAVE A SCHEDULE: I find that my most successful days as a mom are the days I have planned out. Get into a routine of waking up and doing what you need to do, getting the most tedious task done first. I have a crazy obsession with my kitchen. It HAS to be clean before I do anything! So, if the kitchen isn’t cleaned the night before, it has to be done first thing in the morning. That way if nothing gets done the rest of the day, at least I feel good about something. Find out what kind of schedule works best for you and stick with it.
4. FOCUS ON FAMILY: Family should always come first! ALWAYS! Your spouse and your children should be your very FIRST PRIORITY. Take time for your children, cherish every moment with them. I’m amazed at how fast Roman is growing. He’s at that stage where he pulls at everything. I remember the days when I was teaching him to grasp objects. The more time you spend with them, the more your love for them will grow, and the happier and more successful mom you will be. It’s always very rewarding to observe their milestones and monitor their development.
5. GIRLS NIGHT OUT! : Not only is it okay, but it is a good thing! Leave the kids with your husband, mom, friend, and babysitter – and have a little Girls Night Out! I remember the first time I left my new baby; I seriously almost had a meltdown. I missed him so much! But it’s important to maintain a social life and not forget who you are as an individual. Remember that being a mom is one of your many roles. Do not neglect the others. You’re also a wife, sister, daughter and friend. Get out and have fun with your friends. You deserve it!
6. CREATE A HAPPY, HEALTHY HOUSE: It’s almost impossible to have a clean house with a baby or toddler running around, exploring his new world, learning new things. And that’s okay! This point takes us back to #3. Once you maintain a schedule, you’ll have days allocated for certain task. That way dishes doesn’t get piled up. Or you have two weeks of laundry. Don’t neglect chores and allow yourself to feel overwhelmed. It’s okay to ask for help. To share the chores and to allocate a different task everyday so you keep the places at least a bit organized. Roman is at the stage where everything goes into his mouth, so the carpets need to be clean and any hazardous objects are kept out of his reach.
7. DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS: Everyone has their own trials and tribulations. Some people are just better at masking theirs than others. Do not look at someone’s social media and wish for their life. Focus on your life, your love ones, making yourself a better person for your family. Be happy!
8. CALL FOR HELP: I have learned that it is okay to ask for help. In fact, we can’t do it alone. I try to be SUPERMOM. I don’t like asking for help. It’s a downfall of mine. I prefer to get everything done on my own. But EVERYONE needs support. At some point we all need that help. Situations may arise and we can’t do it on our own. It’s okay, reach out for help. If you don’t have a significant other, try a family member or friend. You will also be amazed by how helpful and willing others are. Take the help and show gratitude.
9. LEARN HOW TO SAY “NO”: This is a hard one for me, but I am slowly learning how to say it. Successful moms know where to draw the line in service, in party planning, in recreation, in volunteering, in church, in EVERYTHING. As you get wrapped up in special events and groups – people will seek for your help and ask you to do all sorts of favors. It is okay to say “no” sometimes. You can’t do it all. Only put as much as you can handle into your schedule.
10. DO WHAT YOU CAN DO, IN THE BEST WAY YOU KNOW: This point is most important; be the best version of yourself. Do what you can, in the best way you know. Follow these steps and take the time to carry out each and every task to the best of your ability. Don’t give up. Triumph over obstacles. Set a good example for your children and teach them how to live humbly and righteously. Make yourself proud, make your family proud. Your work will reflect in their well being. I wish you all the success in the world!
9. LEARN HOW TO SAY “NO”: This is a hard one for me, but I am slowly learning how to say it. Successful moms know where to draw the line in service, in party planning, in recreation, in volunteering, in church, in EVERYTHING. As you get wrapped up in special events and groups – people will seek for your help and ask you to do all sorts of favors. It is okay to say “no” sometimes. You can’t do it all. Only put as much as you can handle into your schedule.
10. DO WHAT YOU CAN DO, IN THE BEST WAY YOU KNOW: This point is most important; be the best version of yourself. Do what you can, in the best way you know. Follow these steps and take the time to carry out each and every task to the best of your ability. Don’t give up. Triumph over obstacles. Set a good example for your children and teach them how to live humbly and righteously. Make yourself proud, make your family proud. Your work will reflect in their well being. I wish you all the success in the world!
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